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The other day, G and I were discussing this topic"Unconditinal love". He told me that his love for me is totally unconditional and that he would sacrify his life for me if neccessary.
While I have no doubt that he would sacrify his life for me, but I doubt very much if his love for me is unconditional.
Me: I do not believe your love for me is unconditional sorry, my love for you is certainly conditioned upon the fact that you are my husband, so naturally your love for me is conditioned upon that I am your wife and remain your wife.
G: That is not true, my love is really unconditional just like Jesus' is unconditional.
Me: You mean you would still love me even if I divorce you?
G: (Hesitated a bit) Yes.
Me: Sorry I don't buy it. I love my children very much and I can die for them if need to, but I must admit my love for them is conditioned upon that they are my children.
G: That is not true, it might seem to be the case, but in fact it is not because there is no way that they will NOT be your children, this condition will never exist, once they are your children, they will be your children forever, a fact that no one can change, therefore, it can not be said that it is a condition.
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Well, while it is a bit deep, but I must admit he is right in this regard, I mean there is no way that they are my children one day and not my children the other, so I guess I love them that is it.
However, except Jesus I still do not believe that anyone's love for me is unconditional. Maybe I am skeptical but really I can not imagine it and I have never experienced it.
What do you think?
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Teamaster 2009-11-27 22:38
惠如惠如 2009-11-27 09:09
君子如水，隨方就圓，無處不自在。
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丫哩 2009-11-23 11:10
BigDaddy 2009-11-22 04:46
丹丹 2009-11-21 09:18
韻 2009-11-19 13:00
I am with G. I believe that a husband's love for his wife should be unconditional just like Jesus love the church. Well, not sure how many husbands can really do so but everyone is supposed to be this way.
My husband & I had similar discussion long time ago. The way he thinks is more on your side. He believes that ALL is conditional. I actually feel very sad about what he believes.
vs 2009-11-19 05:03
Noel 2009-11-17 17:24
I am of your view that Love is Conditional !
Even my mother loved me and said to me she would die
for me and actually she always said that while I was a little boy !
But one day when I loved my girl friend more than my mother,
she felt very unhappy and not concerned me so much !
That is the truth Love can fade and even die out if no condition !
In my words Love is Selfish and closely related to the
relationship of the parties concerned.
Boris 2009-11-16 15:37
I agree that only Jesus can offer such kind of unconditional love. There are occassions that we cannot even offer "unconditional love" to someone who is related to us. I have no doubts that my parents would die for us but I am having doubt on the opposite direction.
The Teacher 2009-11-16 08:38
Unconditional love for all is reserved for deity, but unconditional love for specific persons, like one's children, or selected friends, can still be defined as unconditional once the parameters of identities are set.
In other words, if your "condition" is that they must be your children, then it can still be unconditional because once a person is your child, that fact could not be changed. It's different from loving someone "if they're loyal", or "if they do this and that", which would be conditional.