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What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my
feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

A Man's Response

Reply to: pers-440077664@craigslist.org
Date: 2007-10-04, 3:31PM EDT

Dear Pers-431649184:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you
suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump." I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

A Woman's Response

Reply to: pers-440160641@craigslist.org
Date: 2007-10-04, 4:59PM EDT

Although I don't entirely agree with the ordinary poster's objective, I've said this many times... Why is it fine for a man to verbalize and seek out the physical traits he looks for in a woman without any judgments from anyone? Yet, a woman who states he wants to meet and marry a man who make a certain income is automatically labeled a whore? We all know men have a list of specifics when searching for a wife and the more money the man makes the more picky he is.

I once knew a guy who was dating a brunette for a while, but when asked if he was thinking long term with this dark haired beauty, he stated "I could only marry a blond. A real blond" With that his male friends just laughed.

Now some advice for the poster:

If you are a white woman it will be easier to find a rich guy. Just go to the Wall Street hangouts afterwork. But beware... the married guys are usually there until 8pm. If you stay pass that time you will more likely meet a single guy who lives close by.

Also, remember men aren't as gullible as they might have been in the past. They don't give us their money that easily. They have to be in love or deep lust with you. The only way to do this is to NOT fuck them right away. Once you give them sex without any discussion of arrangement you've lost your power. At that point men start to feel like a john and no matter how big their ego is or how much they talk about having money they all want to believe they'd never pay for sex. Let them live in their dreamland.

Now, I've looked at the women these guys marry. Yes, I wonder how a skinny, no makeup wearing, pasty, unattractive women got these well to do guys to marry them. Well, I've figured out the answer. These women are less likely to attract other men frequently. So their husbands feel safer believing their wives are faithful, raise their children and keep a good home. No man who makes a lot of money wants to spend his precious money making time worrying if his wife is fucking some other rich guy. That's why the hot sexy ladies are usually mistresses (if you're lucky) or just a free fuck. Also, most of the men on Wall Street are Jewish and marry Jewish women because as one of my former Jewish lovers said "It's just what we're supposed to do"

I speak from experience. I met a few men in my travels who right away show off their titles (I'm a CORPORATE lawyer, investment banker, or the such) then only want to take you out for a drink and they try to fuck you. I'll admit I let it happen, but now I'm wiser. Now, if a guy chats me up and tells me what high caliber job they have... I asked..."So? How does that benefit me?" This usually leaves them stumped followed by nervous laughter. Then if they have any character they usually overcome the statement and we started conversing about something on a more mutual level. The asshole whose objective was just see how much of an easy lay you are will move onto someone else.

Hey, it's every women's dream to marry a rich guy. And it's our right. Any woman who says she doesn't think that way is a liar or too ugly and insecure to compete.

Again, if you are an attractive white gentile woman you can reach your goal. But remember the Jew boy will use you as a fuck doll then marry another Jew -- The exception being is if you are Asian and docile. The Christian male would be more suitable for you, but you better be very attractive, thin with long hair and big breasts (real or fake) and placate to them. The Asian might date you seriously if his family doesn't intervene. The South Asian can go either way, but usually marry their own kind most are not Christian. The few Black men with the aptitude to be a high roller on Wall Street is your best bet, for most are looking for a white woman to marry and lighten up their race.

GOOD LUCK!!