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"生命的十五堂必修課~用心去活" by Elisabeth Kiibler~Ross & David Kessler
~寬恕就是再次打開你的心門~
~年少時的伊莉莎白曾被迫做某些痛苦的抉擇,至今她仍在學習為過去的悲劇寬恕自己.
她和家人到奧斯維茲時,必須站在荷槍的警衛面前接受問話,警衛問她弟弟幾歲,她答十三歲,並驕傲的補充說,根據猶太傳統,他已是一個男人.後來她才知道男人必須立刻送進毒氣室,小孩則可暫免死罪,心裡非常恐懼她的多言將害死弟弟. "我真希望當時能把他的年齡說得小一點,如果我沒有說出他的實際年齡,說不定他今天還活著,如果我什麼都沒說,也許他就不會死了.我常覺得是我害死他的"~伊莉莎白至今仍常想起弟弟,也常想著各種假設的問題.當然,這種自責是錯置的,她仍要努力寬恕自己~
~多數人面對的問題不像伊莉莎白這麼嚴重,但也常常有機會貶低自己或自責.首先,你應該認清一點,{如果當初你能找到更好的視角,一定會有不同的做法}",這個觀念對寬恕自己很有幫助.沒有人會認為"犯這個錯是對的"或"這樣我才能體會傷害別人是不對的",每個人都以為自己做的是對的,這也是為什麼你應該寬恕自己無法看清事情的全貌.即使你真的刻意去傷害別人,那也可能是因為你身處痛苦中,如果當時你能有更好的選擇,你必然會做更好的選擇~
~人生在世難免會犯錯,會偶爾傷害別人,會有迷失自我的時候.如果我們是完美無缺的,大概也就無須來世間歷練一遭了.學習寬恕自己的唯一方法恐怕就是犯幾個錯誤,因為我們都是凡人.如果你做了連自己都無法寬恕的事,你只能交由上帝來處置.你可以向祂告解"上帝,我還無法原諒自己,祈求上帝寬恕我並幫助我寬恕自己"~
~寬恕並不是一生只做一次的功課,而是要不斷去做的,那是靈性修養的功課,能讓你心靈平靜,不遠離愛,你唯一要努力的就是再次打開你的心房~
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Fanggo 2009-10-18 08:33
Soul of Life2009-10-19 18:08
呵呵~小傢伙!!還沒忙完呢!!不過,再忙,都有時間跟好朋友喝個咖啡~
(呵呵~多送你兩杯!!)
周末總共四場演講,從這個城市趕到那個城市,在從那個城市趕去另外一個城市,趕得我血壓飆高,想咬人!!不過還是偷個閒~周六晚上去了書局,買了好書好音樂,在酒店裡跟自己談戀愛~哈哈!!!雖然身在城市喧囂裡,可是心有梵音山林小溪秋風!^^呵呵~我很知足,感謝天給我這樣的福份!!
PS:台北真的很多好地方可以去!!自己一個人悠哉閒晃,生活真的很自在!!
Fanggo 2009-10-05 20:34
Soul of Life2009-10-10 10:17
小傢伙~每次看見你的留言都會心一笑!!
你的心門禁是十二點啊??那十二點之前都去哪裡了啊?
呵呵~你這可愛的傢伙!!!
～♪ 心曲 ♫～ 2009-10-02 21:26
Baby謝謝您在我生病時前來祝福與鼓勵！
祝 您和家人中秋節快樂！
Soul of Life2009-10-10 10:16
親愛的心曲~很開心很開心很開心很開心見到你
答應我~真的要好好的照顧自己的身體!!人生無常~可也是要有命來體驗這樣的無常!!!
上天讓我們得以繼續呼吸~是因為我們的課題還沒完成!!呵呵~你可別想逃學啊!!!
有機會來台灣~讓我知道!!
lover 2009-10-02 12:07
I've read the English version years ago regarding that Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler (Life Lessons). Anyway I still remember something and want to share mine personal viewpoints as (...)
Angry: Cast off the anger then the more able we are to forgive others.
Forgiveness: Only having the power of forgiveness towards a fruitful life.
Happy: The pursuit of happiness (I call it JOY instead which is totally differ) is the basic objective of life.
Heart: Taste touches our life with our pure heart and pure soul.
Lost: Life cannot be encore; there will be no growth and development if there is no loss. Actually we have nothing to loss in our whole life.
Love: Love is happiness and the originate source of joy, it is to live in the power of the heart of every people.
Patience: A disease profound experience inspire us what is patience and understanding and warm caring.
Play: Fun and games belongs to the fountain of life.
Power: To give up control in terms of everything then we will have more power by instinct.
Relationship: Treat and get along with others by heart every moment.
Scare: Take the fear out of fear then we will see a new life.
Shame: We select either to be in love or to be guilty not to; only depends on ours sparkling natural choices.
Sincere: To discover the true self and feel other people's sincerity from our heart.
Surrender: Yields are comfort and strength (I do really have hesitation about this point)
Time: The value of time and experience fully lies in the human point of view. (Time is meaningless for me; loyal to our trueself will do)
Soul of Life2009-10-10 10:13
Oh My God!!!!
Thank you so so so so so so much for sharing.
薄荷 綠 Ivy 2009-09-30 09:53
Soul of Life2009-10-10 10:13